Parenting is one of the most rewarding yet challenging journeys we undertake. At Your One Self, we believe that raising children with mindfulness, moderation, and calm not only nurtures their growth but also aligns with our philosophy of balanced living. Drawing from the insights shared in our podcast episode with Marcus Aurelius Higgs, this post explores how we can raise children in a YOS-aligned way—focused on guiding them with love, composure, and intention.
The YOS Approach to Parenting
At YOS, we see parenting as an opportunity to model the values of authenticity, emotional balance, and intentional living. Parenting with a YOS mindset means approaching each moment with our children as a chance to connect, teach, and guide without letting our emotions dictate our responses. It’s about raising our children not just to be good citizens but to truly understand themselves and the world around them.
Moderation and Balance in Parenting
Moderation is a key element of the YOS approach, not just in how we live but also in how we parent. It’s about finding the middle ground—avoiding extremes in discipline, expectations, or indulgence. When we parent with moderation, we teach our children that life is not about all-or-nothing thinking but about finding balance and making thoughtful choices.
- Practical Tip: When setting rules, strive for consistency and fairness. Rather than enforcing rigid guidelines or being overly lenient, find a balanced approach that considers the child’s needs, your values, and the overall well-being of the family.
Parenting with a Calm and Composed Demeanor
Maintaining calmness, especially in moments of frustration, is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. Marcus Aurelius Higgs highlighted the importance of keeping a composed demeanor when interacting with children, showing them that it’s possible to manage emotions without being overwhelmed by them.
- Practical Tip: Practice pausing before reacting. When faced with a challenging behavior, take a deep breath and remind yourself to respond rather than react. This pause can help shift from an emotionally charged response to a mindful, intentional one.
Non-Emotional Responses: Guiding Without Reactivity
Children learn not just from what we say but from how we say it. A YOS-aligned approach encourages parents to respond thoughtfully rather than react emotionally. This doesn’t mean suppressing feelings but modeling how to manage them constructively.
- Practical Tip: Use language that focuses on the behavior rather than the child’s character. For example, instead of saying, “You’re being difficult,” try, “I see you’re feeling upset; let’s talk about what’s going on.” This shift helps children feel seen and understood rather than judged.
The Role of Mindful Communication
Mindful communication is at the heart of YOS parenting. It involves listening actively, speaking with intention, and creating an open dialogue where children feel safe expressing themselves. Marcus emphasized that understanding ourselves helps us understand our children, allowing us to guide them with empathy and wisdom.
- Practical Tip: Make time for regular check-ins with your child. Ask open-ended questions like, “How are you feeling today?” or “What was the best part of your day?” This fosters open communication and helps you stay connected to their inner world.
Encouraging Autonomy While Setting Boundaries
One of the greatest challenges in parenting is finding the right balance between giving children autonomy and setting appropriate boundaries. Marcus’s insights remind us that children need the freedom to explore within a safe structure, learning independence while feeling supported.
- Practical Tip: Allow your child to make choices within set boundaries. For example, offer two or three options for dinner or activities, letting them exercise decision-making skills within a controlled environment. This approach encourages responsibility while maintaining parental guidance.
Conclusion: Raising the Next Generation with Intention
Parenting with the principles of Your One Self means more than guiding behavior—it’s about nurturing the whole child. By practicing moderation, responding with calm, and fostering mindful communication, we set the stage for our children to grow into self-aware, balanced individuals. Just as we strive to live authentically and intentionally, we can teach our children to do the same, building a foundation that supports their journey to becoming their best selves.
Explore more parenting insights on our podcast episode with Marcus Aurelius Higgs, and join the Your One Self community for additional resources on mindful living, parenting, and personal growth. Together, let’s raise the next generation of YOS kids—balanced, aware, and ready to thrive.